It’s that time of year again. The time to celebrate the fathers in our lives. Does anyone else struggle shopping for husbands or fathers (or both)? Father’s Day gifts are almost always hard for me!
This year, I recommend a fresh approach to Father’s Day gift giving.
I recently read a fabulous book called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. This book teaches that there are five basic ways that we can express love, and some mean more to us than others.
To really honour someone, we need to learn to speak their love language. This can improve any relationship – with children, friends, siblings, partners and parents.
Let’s consider how to apply these principles to honour the love of our lives this year for Father’s Day.
Words of Affirmation
Does the man in your life beam when he is given verbal or written praise? Chances are his love language is Words of Affirmation. He might appreciate it if you:
- Take extra time to find the perfect card, even if it costs (gasp) $6. If this is truly his love language, it will be worth every penny. Or make your own, with meaningful words.
- Make a video telling him specific things you appreciate about him. Get creative – maybe it could be an A to Z list (Awesome, Buys my favourite ice cream, Considerate of my feelings…).
Acts of Service
Does the man you are honouring seem touched when you do thoughtful things for him? Chances are his love language is Acts of Service. Here are some ideas for him this Father’s Day:
- Make a coupon booklet full of acts of service that you and the kids will do for him. For example, take out the garbage for a month, make his coffee for a week, take his car for an oil change, get something crossed off his TO DO list.
- Buy something that will make his life easier and finish the project. For example, buy a shelf to organize his tools, and install it for him.
Does your man value physical touch more than other expressions of love? Some ideas to speak this language on Father’s Day:
- Book a massage for him. This is my favourite frugal gift to give (and receive, in case you are reading this, honey!), because we have insurance coverage for a few massages each year.
- Have the kids take turns rubbing his feet, scratching his back… whatever dad fancies.
If your man feels most loved when he receives gifts, make sure your presents are given on the actual holiday. Gifts do not have to be expensive to be meaningful, since “it’s the thought that counts” is especially true for these men. You could:
- Make a scavenger hunt, with small thoughtful gifts that lead up to a larger gift.
- Put together a basket of meaningful items that he enjoys (favourite DVD, popcorn, flavoured coffee and lounge pants).
If your man feels most loved when you carve out time for him, you can honour him in this way by doing the following:
- Plan a special afternoon or evening when you can have uninterrupted time. Make sure he has your full attention.
- Surprise him with the children and take him to a place he loves.
I hope this inspires you for meaningful Father’s Day gift ideas. We’d love to hear how you plan to celebrate. Want some more quick ideas? Keep reading.
Dinner Or Lunch
Dinner or lunch is always a great way to celebrate dad. I’m sure he would appreciate the night/afternoon off from cooking and cleaning up, right? Many places offer some type of promotion on Father’s Day, such as dad’s meal for free or free dessert. Check around for the best deal!
Write A Letter
Write a letter to your dad, reliving all of the wonderful memories you have with him and all of the things you have learned from him. Tell him how much you love him and what he means to you.
Bake a big cake in his favourite flavour and give him the first piece.
Dad’s love pictures just as much as mom’s do, so why not make your dad a family photo album filled with pictures of all of the people he loves?
Clean The Car
Clean out the car, vacuum and wash the outside. Dad will sure love to get into a shiny, clean car – without having to clean it himself!
Mow the lawn, pull the weeds – all of the stuff that dad does outside – do it for him! He will appreciate that he gets a break from the yard work.
Garage Clean Up
Spend a few hours completely cleaning out the garage for your dad. Scrub the floors (YES, REALLY!), wipe down tools and cabinets and work spaces. Put everything away so it’s nice and clean and organized.